How to Really Feel Your Feelings Instead of Overthinking That S**t

Emotions ‘happen’ in the body, and they exist to get you to do shit. Yes, that shit isn’t always good, like when we are experiencing anger, but sometimes it is excellent, like when we are experiencing compassion.

The word emotion comes from the latin word ‘mot’ and it means ‘move’. It is the root of hella english words having to do with movement of various sorts, including automobile, remote, and motivation.

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How to Really Motivate Yourself to Do S**t

Motivation is a huge problem for people. I know because they are always telling me it is. People be saying shit like “I’m just not motivated!” Or “I need some motivation” (this is one of my faves, because you can’t, I assure you, go out and pick up motivation like you are getting some eggs, but people be saying it anyway).

But even though people are always telling about this problem, I’m not buying it. I call bullshit on the problem of the missing motivation.

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Let's Celebrate Our Secret Silly Superpowers, Shall We?

Not every superpower has to be ‘horse whisperer’ or ‘physics prodigy’. Some superpowers are just natural talents we have that are pretty silly and often remain secret because they seem too unimportant to acknowledge.

Why do we do that shit? We should fell good about recognizing our own strengths and special skills. But we have hella blind spots because humans.

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Three Steps to Making Better Decisions

I spend alot of my time in my coaching practice helping my clients work through decisions of all kinds, so I know that most people really hate having to make decisions.

Especially the big ones. The ones that feel like ‘If I don’t get this right, my whole like will crumble to dust and no one will ever love me again.’ (Helpful Hint: that is never true, but the feeling is real).

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Vanessa's Top Tips for Moving Without Going Totally Crazy

We just moved into a new apartment! Hooray and stuff! And, the moving experience was everything you’d think it was: exciting, annoying, dusty, sweaty, busy, frenetic, and so on.

Since my brain spent so much time thinking about all this that I’m squeezing it all out into a blog post (you’re welcome?).  Here are my top tips for moving without going crazy:

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